Waiting to PIECE. No PEACE when waiting

[Navyguy]

9...welcome to the Limbo Lounge. Get comfortable, because you'll probably be here awhile. I've been here for 4 months.

Saying you need to become GREAT at being patient is a huge understatement. You need to MASTER the art of patience. Don't be discouraged if at first you don't get it right. I have found that anytime I react negatively to my wife's negativity, we get sucked into an R talk and then she starts thinking about all the "wrongs" I have done in the past, reopening those wounds and causing a backslide. Right now I'm going on 2 months without that having happened.

Yes, there are times when I feel like a doormat, but it seems to be working...slowly but surely. Your W is going to continue her roller coaster ride. The best way to stay off the ride with her is to keep your expectations at bay. R will have to happen on her terms, and at the pace she's comfortable with.