If you're dropping the rope so to speak, you go along with talking about it. My DB coach suggested I bring up before my W did as a 180. I was on eggshells all the time just hoping she didn't bring it up. It actually helped, but it was very, very HARD. I didn't execute it exactly as suggested, either. I did have to get my sporadic snide remark in there.
Also, it may be wise to at least consult with an atty, if you haven't already done so.
