It is not acceptable behaviour in a relationship. In many of these cases the WAS does not feel they are in a relationship.
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By not propagating the myth that their spouse is in a "mid-life-crisis" and they are confused by "fog" or "abducted by aliens" and that is why they are doing what they are doing.
I actually don't advocate for MLC in Newcomers. It is over-used. In some situations it applies but not all.
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You are not addressing the "underlying issues" by suggesting some guy mow the lawn, or do the dishes, or buy a new pair of slacks.
Someone gave that advice? That's pretty crappy advice to get a marriage back. I agree with you.
More often than not the advice is to address problems within yourself. Try different ways to communicate, set goals and see if they happen. Go dark, set boundaries. (once a person (LBS) is capable of living with the consequences)
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If those are the reasons your wife is in bed with another man. You are married to the WRONG person.
I agree if the spouse was always that shallow.
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But I am not understanding why you would argue pro-cuckoldry. SAD.
Do I?
Do you really think anyone here is saying its ok for the rest of your life?
It about being able to survive an affair after it happens, not about ending the marriage when it does.
If you're need to be right is greater than your ability to communicate, then this is just seeing who yells loudest.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
