We had an R talk last week. I said, "I could become The Best Husband in the World, and our M could be reborn as The Best M in the World, but all you continue to see are the faults and sins of the past." No matter what we do, our WASs cling to the past like some perverse security blanket.
Telemark,
The reason the cling to the past so much, in my case, was because of all the times I would say I changed and the changes didn't stick. It's a cycle to them. It takes a LONG time for them to realize that the change is real and permanent. You just have to hope that there is still something there once they believe it.
