Tired

[Seminolewind]

Lonely,

I remember those days when I thought I would just crumble and could just die! All I can tell you is start reading all of these threads. Get on A/D meds if it helps. You need to learn to be a patient man. Stop the pursuing now! The people giving you advice have already been through this part. It is a real crappy place to be in life and you will survive. Life is all about how you decide to play the cards you have been dealt. I like a good poker game and right now that is how I am looking at my marriage. Just when you thought I was getting ready to fold, you find out I was just sitting back patiently waiting to drop my straight flush on your full house! You need to make yourself a winner again. People like a positive person a whole lot better than the opposite.

I already know what you are going to do, but for some reason I feel the need to help. Been there done that!

Slow down take a deep breath and read this stuff. Stop pursuing her. Do you think your wife or any person male or female would get all excited about seeing Donny Downer? I did that and it doesn’t work or help at all. I don’t think you could find anyone that likes a miserable person. Quit sending e-mails, text messages, phone calls even snail mail. If she needs to talk she will call you. If you are not busy you might be able to answer her call or maybe you can call her back tomorrow or the next day. Get out and live like you have never lived before. Make new friends, act like you are running for mayor and treat everyone like they are your long lost best friend. Fake it until you make it! Find out who you want to be in life. What kind of person does Lonely really want to be? Pick one thing that you have always wanted to do in life and just do it. It’s not just a biscuit if you actually risk it! Only talk about how crappy your life is on this board, your friends and family will get sick of it and give you somewhat shaky advice (not always but usually). Become unpredictable, this keeps everyone guessing and makes them curious. Read what others on this site are doing and take the good with the bad. Take life an hour/minute/second at a time. Don’t be so serious, it’s just life.

If you can start trying these things your life will improve every day. Sometimes you need to do the opposite of what YOU think is the best for your sitch.