It has to be so hard seeing the people you love hurting. I wish I had something to say to help, but I don't know how you can even begin to erase the pain of something like this.
H and I were talking about the zingers erasing 20 nice comments, so he decides to do a little experiment, he starts saying all these nice things, and I know he is kind of joking around, and then he says, your hair is mousy. And I know it was to prove a point, and it did, because I asked him (kidding, sort of), is my hair mousy? Should I color it....and his response was you didn't hear everything else I said, all your remember is the mousy part, and it is so true! So now I think I should be a red head! As soon as I lose 50 pounds. But, it really did bring home the point to me, how powerful one simple (even good intention) comment can outweigh the postivies. Just made me think of hair washing, even if you don't say anything about all the other things he does with the kids, that is the one that will stand out with him. Always learning how my mouth can get me in trouble.
