Thank you Deb and Jackie - Your posts keep me anchored. I appreciate then more than you can know.

Today has been tougher - both for my H and for my MIL. It is hard to see them hurting so much. This is hard on me and I only knew my FIL for about 12 yrs - I can't imagine how they must be feeling.

Deb - I want to catch up with you. Hopefully I'll have a chance today. I miss everyone too. This bb is a real source of support.

Jackie - Maybe we could start a club for conflict avoiding, people-pleasers! What you've said sounds really familiar. I think it's true for everyone that it's easier to see things from the outside - you all have certainly enlightened me more times than I could count.

Thank you again for yuor posts - they brighten up my day.

Mockers2 "Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet "That which does not kill us makes us stronger." Friedrich Nietzsche