"Sometimes I am very angry. I'm angry that he walked away even though he promised he never would. I'm angry that he is placing the majority of the blame on me. I'm angry because for the past 6 months I've gotten my sh*t together and he hasn't even made an attempt."
Well said. I feel the same way. My W is the female counterpart of your H, except we do not have the child issue to deal with (3 out of 4 kids are on their own; SS21 is still cared for by both of us).
We had an R talk last week. I said, "I could become The Best Husband in the World, and our M could be reborn as The Best M in the World, but all you continue to see are the faults and sins of the past." No matter what we do, our WASs cling to the past like some perverse security blanket.
Their loss, I say.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
