Originally Posted By: Jack_Three_Beans
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Perhaps you can expound on how you made it fit into your own sitch?


I think you just did:

It is more of a fluid, adapt to the situation mindset.

With one caveat, give the adaption time to be seen/felt.

I didn't approach this with a week or month time frame, I did it day to day.

My mantra a long time ago was:

"Today is not the day I quit. Tomorrow might be different, but today is not the day I quit." I repeat that everyday.

Change and monitor.
I think that served me well.

However, what saved me, to hell with my marriage, was that I made changes for me. When I did that for me? Everything got better.

(You mean she came running back?)

No I mean I didn't care. I didn't hang on every little thing hanging importance on the trivialities of what she meant by dropping her kleenex in my trash.

I didn't hang importance on the big things she did either, yelling at me, demanding things.

I didn't hang importance on anything she did, until she truely reached out to attmpt and rebuild the bridge we both destroyed.

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or how it changes as the situation changes?


That's more...piecing.

I don't think the situation truly changes much while the MLC is ongoing.


Congrats on the new home Jack!

and thanks for this post.

I love the mantra... 'today is not the day that I quit' That is great.

Denver


M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce