Can My Marriage Be Saved?

[jbnati]

Good. I am glad your DB coach was a big help. At this point, you will benefit from hanging on to any hope you can muster up. You have a game plan now - go with it.

[a girl]

I'm such a rollercoaster - I'm feeling hopeful, then I see he Googled "Ourstate Divorce" and I want to throw up again.

I don't know how much of this I can take.

[a girl]

He's home now. Seems cranky. Possibly cause of work, but I'm more inclined to believe it's because he misses OW. Wednesday is the day he would "work from home" and they would talk on their secret cell phones. It's only been 4 days since they broke contact, after 2 months of an online/phone affair.

I'm upstairs. Not avoiding him, just giving him breathing room.

[any chance?]

G:
You need to be prepared to give this time. Perhaps quite a bit of time. When my W broke off with OM, she was still giving me the "I miss my friend" months later in MC. It has been over a year, and I am quite convinced that he still rattles her cage. And I know he trys to contact her at times, telling her he needs to see her, and this is 15 months after she ended the EA/PA. It could be a long slog.

Having said that, you need to take care of yourself and hang in there. If you still love him, then keep loving him. Follow the advise of the vets on this board - they are wise beyond their years to be sure. Vent here when need be. We are here for you.

[a girl]

H wanted to talk about divorce. Would I contest it, can we fill then paperwork out. Hate this.

[a girl]

Just journaling. H did hug me when the divorce talk started.

Think the best strategy is to keep working on the suggestions from Jody for now, as well as GAL.

If we do separate, I think that will be when I "go dark".

Wonder what the MC will say tomorrow.

[JustStunned]

Girl,

Think the best strategy is to keep working on the suggestions from Jody for now, as well as GAL.

If we do separate, I think that will be when I "go dark".

Sorry if this come off as harsh,

DB is more a method of saving you than a strategy for saving your M. People do save their M through saving themselves. The focus should be on you not on which strategy will save the M.

Follow your DB coach’s suggestions, make them work for you. GAL for you. Go dark for you. Go dark when you need a break from the chaos, to detach, to place a little separation in for sanities sake.

Lastly please review the section in DR about the Last Resort Technique. H is talking D

[a girl]

I know. I'm just so twisted up inside. I keep Jody say there's hope, and the contrasting that to the divorce conversation. I guess I'll check out LRT.

[~¤DG¤~]

Hey girl,

You should probably start a new thread before the mod locks this one.
They don't like them to exceed 100 posts.

Chin up girl.