...As for us things have been going real well. There has been mo mention of an open marriage in months.
...Will we ... start working on us or will all the shenanigans start again.
Something tells me I need to be ready and at least expect her to test the boundaries of our relationship.
....I tried bringing up PM twice but she keeps saying she's either A. Too stressed with all the uncertainty from the move or B. She doesn't like discussing sex things while on her period.
...Last Sunday I played cards with the locals ....3 miles yesterday
....If only we could fix our sex life things would be perfect.
A few thoughts. First I am glad that you feel things are going well. You deserve some good times, as does your wife.
Yes, she will test you, it is part of the process. What you need to do is be firm with her, but not get into a fight. You are not her father, she is responsible for her own actions as an adult. Keep repeating those words. ...And remember her outbreaks of anger are probably not even directed at you or what you have done.
Listen to your wife and give her the benefit of the doubt regarding PM. She actually might be too stressed. I know a lot of people who don't handle new surrounding well while traveling or until they get use to a place and a routine. She also may (and probably should be stressed out over an extended period). Again, I would give her the benefit of the doubt.
Remember you can't change her, only she can change herself. You can offer opportunities and support actions on her part. She needs to want to do the PM reading and thinking what it means. It is something she needs to want to do. If she looses interest in it, try something else, like 5LL or some of MWD's SSM exercises.
Your GAL is very very important. Never give it up. So when are you going to sign up for a triathlon? Have you worked with her on any king of GAL for her?
As an unconditional love kind of guy, if it were me, I would tell my wife that if the two of you could resume a nurturing sex life, that you think the marriage would be headed in the right direction. I would also thank her for all that she has gone through to change the situation. Whether you believe it or not, she is changing.
Good luck to you. Thank you for your service to this country.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
