Forgetting those things which are behind......

[holdingon]

Mockers,
Thanks for visiting my thread... and I am always so inspired by yours. I am really glad that you and your H are LAUGHING a lot lately... I think this is really awesome, and if we could ALL laugh more, maybe more of our sitchs would turn around quicker!

My H thought I thought I was always right, too. I think a lot of it is the way they view us, maybe some of it is that mother thing, and maybe some of it IS us wanting to be right, and maybe even controlling. Maybe you could ask Hs opinion more, and be there and really listen to him when he gives his opinion. Discuss things more, who knows.

I found myself not listening to my H... putting down a lot of his opinions and now, I know why. I was afraid that he was growing, learning new things and thought I was stagnating here at home. I should have shown an interest in his opinions and interests, and not been so fearful of his growing.. Maybe he would have let me grow along with him if I had, instead of leaving me. Who knows. Another lesson learned the hard way.

I would definitely try to have separate interests from your H, and keep the separate life you have worked so hard to have. Be confident... love him, but do your own thing, too. And I am not sure ML with him whenever he wants it IS a bad thing. But maybe you can spice this up, too... perhaps joining him in the shower, or someplace he would least expect it, who knows.

Saying you aren't confident strikes me as funny. You have put your M back together, by yourself. You held out hope, when he didn't. Honey, you SHOULD be confident.