I am so sorry that you are hurting. It is hard, probably one of the hardest things you'll ever do, but you will be ok. You will get through it.
You start by GAL for yourself. Is there anything you have ever wanted to do that you never had the time for? Rock climbing? Yoga? Cooking class? Well here is your chance. It is hard to start, I won't lie, but it does get easier.
For me, one of the first things I did was went and got my hair done the way I wanted it, not the way I knew he liked it. I am in counseling, I write in my journal, I pray. I go for walks with my friends, I spend quality time with my kids, I volunteer.
You have to change your mind set. This isn't a death sentence for you, this is an opportunity for you to discover who you are and to do whatever your hearts desire.
If you think about it, the possibilities are endless.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤