Broken, My MLC lasted 2 1/2 years. I did do the tough internal work to get through and I can say I made it. I personally am in a good spot. The problem when your in MLC is its painful. You only have the capacity to survive each day. Thats why it seems selfish to the partner but thats the truth. There is no room for someone else in that journey. The MLC'er is too confused with all the termoil. Do I have regrets? None. I sure didnt choose to go through an MLC. If you felt what I felt and was in my brain at the time you would be screaming to get out. I really don't remember about a year of it. Basically a haze. You'll hear some people say I never said that if questioned or don't remember. I think the pain just overwhelms the system.
there is a good life for yourself if you come through MLC. The problem is it is tough on the LBS. My wife stayed through mine. I was going to move out in the middle of it. Just something to do to maybe stop the pain. I did not.
My wife is about 1 1/2-2 into MLC. She moved out about 8 months ago. We communicate very little. That is fine for now as I stay out of the drama. We will see where things unfold. I live my life as if she's not coming back.
I hope she finds the meaning of her MLC, I did find mine. I hope your wife finds hers. MLC is a brutal trip. I would not wish it on anyone but it is a worthwhile trip if you make it. We learn more about ourselves in times of anxiety and pain then we do any other time. It just goes against our nature to embrace those times.
