Perhaps you can expound on how you made it fit into your own sitch?
I think you just did:
It is more of a fluid, adapt to the situation mindset.
With one caveat, give the adaption time to be seen/felt.
I didn't approach this with a week or month time frame, I did it day to day.
My mantra a long time ago was:
"Today is not the day I quit. Tomorrow might be different, but today is not the day I quit." I repeat that everyday.
Change and monitor. I think that served me well.
However, what saved me, to hell with my marriage, was that I made changes for me. When I did that for me? Everything got better.
(You mean she came running back?)
No I mean I didn't care. I didn't hang on every little thing hanging importance on the trivialities of what she meant by dropping her kleenex in my trash.
I didn't hang importance on the big things she did either, yelling at me, demanding things.
I didn't hang importance on anything she did, until she truely reached out to attmpt and rebuild the bridge we both destroyed.
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or how it changes as the situation changes?
That's more...piecing.
I don't think the situation truly changes much while the MLC is ongoing.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
