Alone, How do I do what you say? I dont know any other way except being a wife and homemaker and mom. Please can you help? I am so lost. I have great kids who support me but they have their lives now. They have their spouses. I want so much not to like this man, my H, but i cant. I dont want to give up but I feel maybe its holding me back from moving on. I hate the D papers. I despise this OW. She has a relationship with him built on lies. Unfortunately or fortunately depending on how you look at it she will never know. Please can you help?