Dealing with MLC wife and her supporting mother!

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Thank you for your reply, Spirit, It’s about to be 9 months since this has been going on. I know I shouldn’t be whining because that are allot of heroes here that have been going through this well over a couple of years. So, my prayers and respect goes out to them. Since I’m out of the house, I can’t really tell if she’s depressed. We only communicate via text. She is doing SO much right now in regards to school, work and her extracurricular activities. Her sleeping patterns have changed DRASTICALY. Every time I do see her, she is getting thinner. She has bags under her eyes and when I talk to her it’s like she’s looking right through me in a daze.

There are SO many people telling me to let her go, divorce her and move on. To be honest with you, I’m can’t do that yet. I am a Christian and I’ve been the guitarist for my church for the last 7 years and I have a GREAT support group. I have a little voice in my heart telling me to hold on. There is so much to lose if I just walk away. I do, however, have to do a better job in texting and showing her my emotions a little less. For the last 5 months, she has been telling me the divorce papers are done and they are coming.

I’ve seen NOTHING yet.

She also sends me allot of pictures of her with the kids. I don’t know if she’s is trying to hurt me or she is being genuine. I really don’t know. I feel so left in the dark right now that I don’t know what’s coming or going. I spend allot of time at church, with my kids and friends.

She texted me the other day and told me that she “does love me, but she doesn’t tell me because I frustrate her” also, she said “ If she were to pick a lifetime partner, friend and husband, that it would be me”.

Today for the first time, when I went to pick up my youngest to take him to day care, she sat in the car with me and chatted a little. I put my arm around her and she acts as if she’s scared. She accepted it and stepped out.

When I first started this journey, I was talking to a fellow church member about my situation and he told me, “ Its sounds like she’s having a midlife crisis”. He sent me an article of Christine’s book How To Survive Your Wife’s Midlife Crisis. My wife had every symptom except for the affair, which I couldn’t confirm. She did not say ILYBINILY, but she told me I love you but I can’t be with you. She needs to work on “Her”, she needs to “Find herself”. And the way she was brutal about it even to the kids was mind boggling.

If this is truly over for us, I will accept this on my own time. Not any one else’s. At the end, I want to say that I tried my best.

How long did your MLC last? Were there any regrets?

Thank you very much for your reply.