I never really bought too strongly into this whole strutting around dressed to the nines idea.
I think women like seeing a man who is well taken care of, but I don't think they particularly are attracted to a man who they think is just showing off.
REGARDLESS, I DO strongly believe that your attitude and how you carry yourself is FAR, FAR more significant than what you are wearing or how you dress.
You're focusing on the SUPERFICIAL.
That's NEVER winning your wife back.
Instead of worrying about whether you are dressed right or smelling right, get back to work on YOU. You STILL worry too much about her, and you are still completely UNCONFIDENT in yourself.
I'm fairly certain that she can smell that like a shark smells blood in the water. Regardless of how nice you look.
And as for the whole boxes thing, I think maybe you've missed the point.
THIS IS NOT A SKIT. You are not putting on a performance for her. If that's why you're doing it, forget it and don't do it.
How can we get you to LEAVE this mode of trying to TRICK her into loving you, and get you to MOVE on with becoming a man she'd be a fool not to love?
Again Johnnie...SUPERFICIAL crap will only get you crap in return.
If you're ready to make a decision, and that decision might be either leaving or telling her she has to leave, then you would naturally start accumulating moving boxes.
You would NOT scatter them around the house (because you're wanting to be SURE she sees them - THAT is a performance), you'd start stacking them up somewhere natural.
She might see them. She might not. It might take awhile for her to see them, BUT WHO CARES? They're not there for HER benefit, they are there for YOURS.
If she asks why you got them you say something like..
"Well, I haven't heard what your plans are, and I have no intention of staying in a relationship that involves more than two people."
PERIOD.
Walk (or run if you have to) away to avoid any further talk. Go for a drive, go shopping, go visit a friend, go workout, ANYTHING that takes you away.
That's MY take on this Johnnie.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
