Today was pretty good - got some work done, got some meditating in, caught Horrible Bosses -- much better than Hangover 2, and no marriage themes!!
Got a call from L this evening while I was making dinner - apparently W's L served him with the divorce complaint. He said it was all boilerplate stuff. He also mentioned that there is a 90 day clock at this point. So, if I wanted, i could be divorced by Oct. 12.
Obviously, this isn't what I want. I told him I'm not interested in doing anything to help her get the divorce, and basically do nothing is where we left it at.
The one thing, that kind of offended me, was that the L withheld W's current address. As my L explained - that is odd, and usually done in cases where there is a threat to safety. That just struck me as overly dramatic. It continues this pattern of her playing the victim as if I have at any point threatened her with any kind of harm.
She did this a month or so ago when she came over to get some stuff, having her friend was going to call after 1/2 an hour to make sure she was okay. I don't know what the game she's playing is, but the fact is - I haven't threatened her. I haven't laid a finger on her or threatened to since this whole drama started to unfold. In fact, other than losing it at the MC session, I have not even raised my voice at her.
so yeah - I'm a little miffed. I know it's her drama and I don't need to take any of it personally, but still - its painful that someone you love is casting you in this kind of dramatic light of 'dangerous person.' That hurts my feelings!!
Sure it's painful - but you said it. It's HER drama. I've done this with BF's before. I can't explain it. I remember fighting with a BF and then locking myself in a room and moving a dresser in front of the door.
One thing that strikes me though is that she is afraid of your anger. And it's PERCEIVED anger. As you said, you never did anything - so... HER drama. She knows she did something horribly wrong by having a PA, so possibly she is perceiving that anger that she thinks she deserves and preparing herself.
