Thank you both for the great advice. I have read many stories here on the boards and I have received allot of tips. Of course, knowing what to do and actually doing it, are two different things. I really have to learn not to fall into her argument traps. On Friday, we were talking about our children and out of nowhere, she told me that I was a horrible person for abandoning my mother when I was 8 years old. She knows very well that my father took me from her because I almost died 3 times on my mother’s watch. I just hung up the phone when I heard that.
I am still being very kind to her despite all the venom spewing. On Father’s day weekend, I was only allowed to spend a couple of hours with my kids because she had the day planned with HER father. Here is the kicker, her father abandoned her mother before she was born. He never paid a dime in child support and never cared for my wife or any of her needs. Yet, all the other children he has had afterwards, are driving Audis, Lexus and BMW’s. My wife never bothered to collect the years of retroactive child support. Yet, I give her money every week (aside from extras I do for her and my kids) and she threatens me legally. I gave my wife EVERYTHING! I had sacrificed SO much for her and gave up allot to make her happy and yet she treats her father like GOLD!
There had been many times during this separation that she has told me that she does not love me, our marriage was a lie, to move on, find another woman and get a life. Well, after patiently waiting 8 months, I decided to go on a date. She got wind of this and told me that she had never said such things to me. When I forwarded her the very same text she sent me stating these things, she said that she meant for me to move on and get my life situated. NOT WITH ANOTHER GIRL! On the same text, she told me that she DOES love me but the reason she doesn’t tell me is because I “frustrate her”.
BTW, are there any links that I can read of an MLC’er that has given his or her testimony of what they felt, acted or outcome of their situation? I would really like to hear how its like on the other side.
Thank you all for your great support. Have a great one! _________________________ Me: 37 W: 37 Married Feb 14 1997 Seperated Thanksgiving weekend 2010 No divorce filed yet 1st born son:13 2nd daughter:9 3rd son:4 Trying hard to detach
Top
Me: 37 W: 37 Married Feb 14 1997 Seperated Thanksgiving weekend 2010 No divorce filed yet 1st born son:13 2nd daughter:9 3rd son:4 Trying hard to detach
