Letting go is hard to do!

[Seminolewind]

I had really hoped for some input from anyone.

This is what I have decided I should send back to my wife.

W I don't feel it is in our kids best interest to make them choose who they should be living with between their mother or father. As parents yes, we need to get along and give total support for what is best for both our girls. I don't think it's a good idea to put them on the spot and try and force them to make choices that would be difficult for anyone, even an adult.

I also know that we both love our children with all of our hearts. I am having a difficult time understanding why you would want to make the girls pick a parent. I couldn't imagine trying to pick between my dad and mom if they had gone through something like this.

I informed my lawyer that I refuse to hurt the girls and I refuse to put them in a spot that makes them choose one parent over the other. My lawyer told me the best way to settle this is to go through a child custody evaluation and let the court decide. Yes, it's a long and expensive process and I am going to place my kids wellbeing above money or anything that could be damaging to them throughout their life.

I know each of us have a little different prospective as to what is best for the girls and as you said Friday in mediation you are unwilling to compromise when it comes to the girls. I am willing to try and come together on a plan that is in the best interest of our children and I am going to be firm on what I feel is best for them.

I would like some input. I know this is a difficult sitch and I am up for any advise on wether I should send this or not.