You got the response you wanted, be prepared to endure when it flips back.
You love your W, right???
Show her, be fun, friendly, supportive with your actions. Stop telling her that you can forgive her.....show her.
You show her by not talking about it, by being happy, strong, confident......always. She wants to feel secure in your unwaivering confidence.......if she brings it up and asks if you can forgive her.........let your eyes do the communicating.
The eyes can't lie.
And if you haven't truly forgiven her then you got some work Bro, cause it will show in your eyes.
The path to forgiveness is your own happiness and that is not found in the arms of another person........no one.
Not the OW...
Not in your W....
Not in your children.....
Happiness is found within......
There is your work....
If you are truly happy then you will not focus on this VVVVV
Originally Posted By: ninelives
A couple of times I let my mind wander that this bed was where her and OM had sex countless times and it did get to me a little but way less than I thought it would.
I will say that you need to politely cut your OW loose, she has her own sh!t to deal with and you have yours.
You need to send a "no contact" letter and show it to your W and stick to it.
I think Starsky might have some good suggestions in this dept.
Originally Posted By: ninelives
I am worried that I may be making a huge mistake but I believe my marriage is worth one more try.
How could "trying" be a big mistake.......the mistake would be to "NOT TRY" IMO.
I am going to hit you here........Are you worried that you could be giving up the "possibility" of a R with your OW to pursue your broken M that may or may not work out????
Sure sounds like it to me.
There are other people, preferrable MEN, with trailers to do whatever it is you need to do.
Further contact with this woman is "instilling" FEAR in your W, and she will eventually react, guaranteed!!!!!
Oh yeah, you need to stop talking about the DUNG HEAP to your W, it is constantly throwing it up in her face........
Everytime YOU, bring HIM up or his W or his family it is the same as saying to your W that you can not believe she was so stupid but you still want her back????????
Who is sounding a little crazy now????
It is weak on your part. Come here, vent about him. No more talk of HIM with her.
Hope this helps!!!
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
