And the beat goes on...

[jbnati]

My third thread...I feel like a real veteran now.

Yes, this is an accomplishment from the standpoint that you're still hanging in there and a curse from the standpoint that you're still here.

As you'll read in my last post, W is up to something. She has paid $250 to an online moving company (I know this because our bank account info is visible to, and accessible by each other). She continues to send OM money despite her protests that he is "just as friend."

Some friend. I know you're seeing right through this. Who handles the bills? What "budget" is this coming out of? <- That may be your point of contention on this. It probably would make sense to separate the accounts. I don't see any signs on her part of stopping this activity.

It's funny, but I have this strange peace about all of this. I've already been looking at places to relocate if/when she leaves. Savannah, GA looks very nice - warm weather, decent cost of living, lots of history...

Sounds nice. It's a good thing to occupy your mind with. I have these kind of thoughts periodically, too. I just think about North Carolina, but I could never leave my S or take my S away from his Mom.

She said on Sunday she would stay only out of obligation, not out of desire.

Nobody wants this. But I also don't know how much stock I would put in this right now. The old adage - believe none of what they say and 50% of what they do. She is not thinking clearly right now.

I think right now you're a little too close to the action. You could benefit from detaching even more. Living in separate households is a catch-22 though. Speaking from experience, there's benefits and drawbacks to both. I have my days where I really enjoy the space and I have my days where I wish my changes were more visible and I miss my W terribly.

Hang in there, Telemark.