And the beat goes on...

[luvmyhubby]

Tel,
No one wants a spouse to hang around out of guilt or obligation. We all want and DESERVE to be loved honestly and wanted for ourselves.
I would prepare yourself for the "im leaving" announcement and think about how you will respond. Maybe write down what you want to say and then edit it again and again until you get it right. Dont mention to her that you know and use the time to your advantage..

Also her lies about the money to the OM are her lies. They do hurt you because you know the truth and deserve honesty. However do not feel guilty about her lies or actions, feel good about your honesty.

What is the good fight? Does it mean holding yourself back and waiting and hoping? I dont think it means that at all ... I believe that the goal here is to make you a better person. Someone that your W or another person would want to be with. This includes you, do you like who you are?

I think this evaluation is truly a difficult thing to accomplish. You previously were a H and part of a family and your identity was part of that. Now your evaluation has to happen without that dynamic in place and it hurts.
It is okay to hurt and miss what you had.. You wouldnt be human if you didnt...

I think we all want to let go and hold on at the same time. You have to do what is right for you.. If you let go and she comes back say a year later then worry about that then. You cannot control her only yourself and you cant predict the future.

Do the best with the knowledge you have right now.. Then feel confident the choices you made were the best ones you could make at the time.

I also am no expert!! Im new and every day is a challenge.. but reading your post i feel your hurt and understand it! I do have faith that the path im on will lead to something great and so will yours!

Good luck!