To this day I limit contact with my XW, because it hurts to look at her and hear her voice.
She is still the "alien" and not the person I married and had children with.
Acknowledging that they are not sane actually helps me.....
Gritter, talks about the situation where your spouse might have cancer and that MLC is no different as far as standing for your marriage.
However with MLC the best thing you can do is let them be from a loving perspective.
You are in no way endorsing their behavior, you are basically treating the symptoms of the illness by leaving them alone. To continue to keep up the contact with her is no different than pouring salt into her wounds and consequently yours too.
I know how much you love your wife......and it is hard but maintaining that distance is the only thing you can do that will help.
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
