I still cant say we are a success story. And that alone tells a lot about all the twists and turns we went through to finally get to today. We've been piecing for 2 years almost. We were separated for 2 years. We almost filed. We had alimony and visit schedule in place. He was having an affair that lasted almost 3 years, I didnt know although I "knew" at some point, I waited and DBed my a$$ off and then I let go when I had enough. I met someone, I really let go, he came back.
I am on my 74th thread. I used to post a hundred times per day. I dont anymore. I learnt a lot and I am still learning. There is never a white/black way to deal with things. I didnt follow all the rules, I didnt do things right.
I think that when things are really tough we get sucked in, we focus on details and loose sight of what really is happening. My son, now 10, told me 2 days ago that the lesson he learnt was that "things change". He told me "we were a happy family and you divorced and for 2 years we were alone, just me you and my little sister. But mom, we made it! The three of us made it fine!" I am proud of myself and my kids. We would have been fine either way. I learnt the same thing he did, much later in life than he did : things change, change isnt always welcomed cause it hurts, but things can change again...
