As promised, some goals. Feel free to add/criticize/suggest at will.
Develop a deeper and more stable sense of equanimity Meditate Daily Continue reading books on self-development and interaction/relationships Continue to use notebook to identify repetitive or destructive thoughts Limit coffee intake to 12oz/day Working with IC
Get a job I can enjoy that pays well for the time being Obtain and take note of information about modern resumes and their structure Identify as many strengths and quantifiable achievements as I can and collect them Apply my design skill and knowledge to create a good resume Prepare for any interviews by understanding nature of job, skills required, and what they are looking for Develop a healthier perspective about work/confidence/identity
Get down to 200 lbs by Sept. 30 Continue to choose to eat healthy foods and avoid overindulging in things that lead me to feel gross Exercise daily
Balance my body Strengthen and integrate core Take frequent breaks to stretch and open up Commit to waking up at a certain time daily, and plan to get sleep around that time. Come up with 'sleep routine' to facilitate getting to sleep more consistently
Get myself on a more consistent schedule Identify some self control strengthening techniques so I can cultivate that ability better Eat Dinner Earlier
Develop 'habits' that will help me grow and thrive Exercise Clean Kitchen Make bed Read Meditate Walk Write
Continue to detach from W's drama Continue developing thoughts and mental discipline to know that I am okay either way Recognize common humanity so that I can detach from my own negative feelings about situation Frame in ways that allow me to 'judo' the situation to my benefit Reframe based on a more broad perspective Flip around ideas - shift words around, explore other ways of looking at it recogznie how many learning opportunities I can have from this experience recognize/own my problems and the way that I created/contributed to the situation I'm in now cultivate appreciation and gratitude for any real growth
Cultivate skills and thoughts for great authenticity, empathy, compassion, and kindness get more comfortable w/ discomfort: learn to experience my emotions w/o the coping mechanisms and narratives that I use to soften the blow practice compassionate thinking, intentionally actively cultivate ability to appreciate myself by recognizing what is best in me and the many things for which I can be appreciate of and grateful for in my life extend this appreciation outwards, recognizing the interconnectedness and commonality between myself and others. Recognize the shared desires and the common hurts that we all experience. be mindful of my 'communication' with myself and what stories and narratives I form. Be mindful and in the prsent with others so that I can have a more 3-d experience with them.
Explore capacity for both happiness and contentment This is kind of vague, but the idea that happiness is more of a 'pleasure' thing, while contentment is a sense of strong inner well-being is something that I want to continue exploring.
Learn a bit of a new language identify a language. Answer these questions: why? what attracts me to it? how can I learn it best? what opportunities might I have to use it? do any hold a strategic appeal?
Identify some possible career options Meet w/ vocational counselor Take online tests
Work on developing a more authentic public speaking skill I have spent time giving presentations and have taught in the classroom. Neither of these phased me, but I always felt like I was pretending to be someone else in the way I communicated. I think learning to be an effective 'me' and communicating to people from that authentic place would be more enjoyable.
Improved ability to focus Just a personal thing - want to feel more capable of focusing Identify if there are situations where I do focus best (flow/relaxed concentration) Identify if there are any consistent distractors
Learn names and proper technique for beginning yoga poses Exercise/Yoga daily Attend yoga at least 1x per week
Continue to get a life - communicating w/ friends - seeing movies - listening to music - exercising - drawing
M: 32 W: 29 T: 9 Years M: 4 Years I hit rock bottom: 2/11 PA admitted: 4/11 WAW: 5/11 D filed: 6/11 now: Patience, wisdom, and growth - hopefully.