Red - I just re-read your post and notice your H said "getting a mediator involved is a big step" twice. Interesting.
I wonder why he thinks that?
When couples separate the generally accepted advice in family dispute resolution is that the first step should be for the couple to have a couple of sessions with a Family Centre that Relationships Australia are funded to run. They assist the couple with figuring out all the things that need to be figured out (custody arrangements; financial separation; better communication mechanisms etc).
It’s not a big step and it’s not a big deal. It’s a process by which you guys can both feel safe to figure out the logistics of your separation.
Why don’t you give them a ring and have a yarn to them about what low-key, appropriate support is available.
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
