H: Red, Please dont rush into any rash decisions. I would like the opportunity to see my son and what I have proposed Thursday to Saturday each second week, to me is not unreasonable. It is about what is in our sons best interest - not ours, please remember that.
M: I have always done what is best for S3. I will always do what is best for S3. I have accomodated you. I have been reasonable with you. This is no longer about you. I am open to your suggestions regarding S3. I am happy to have a discussion as long as a mediator is present and we can then make more formal arrangements.
Texts from this morning:
H: Red, I have thought about this all night. Please think very carefully about telling me to make formal arrangements through a mediator. I think it is completely unnecessary. If formal arrangements are what you want then I am happy to accomodate this. I will be asking for 50%. It is not meant as a threat, just what I think is fair. I have the means to look after S3 on that basis particularly with my new employment. If that is what you want then ok but I am certain that it isnt. Please let me know one way or the other because I am keen to be more involved with him.
M: Why dont you read your last statement H. This is about what is best for S3. Is claiming 50% in S3s best interest? If you think it is then go ahead. I have in no way made any threats towards you. It would however appear that you are doing so towards me.
H: I think it is in his best interest to have both parents equally and on that basis I need to see him more. He wants it too. The only way that this will work is if he stays with me on a more regular basis. It doesnt have to be so hard between us. You just need to let go a little. I am not going to take him off you
M: I have always wanted you involved H. I have never said you would take him off me. Please do not put words in my mouth. What I want is a more concrete agreement between us. You have changed your mind on our previous agreements. S3 needs consistency. The need for a mediator is to ensure we communicate in an effective manner regarding what is in the best interest for S3
H: Fine. Obviously getting a mediator involved is a big step. Given he is off to school next year, I want the consistency starting now so he has time to adjust
W - 31 H - 33 Married - 7 years Together - 10 yrs Kids - S 3yrs old Separated - 27/03/11 OW - 10/04/11
