Going N/C wish me perseverance/strength

[Queen_of_Swords]

My kids are 10 and 13.
I've already let them know what the future procedure will be.

IMHO, it seems unfortunate that the children are expected to be "deposited" for another of their parents to pick up. Sorry if I'm coming across as harsh or rude,

No, not rude. I understand your perspective. It's sad the children always end up paying the higest price. In fact I'm angry about that on their behalf.

I've tried the other way Alamo, inviting STBX into my (formerly our) home. Being pleasant and polite, not intrusive or interrogative. Doesn't seem to make any difference. He still sees the limited contact we do have as too much and has said so, using words like "Always" and "Never".

I have never been invited into his home, not once.
I do not wish my kids to feel like packages, but I really don't see an alternative for my own emotional well being.

I don't want to see him, I no longer want to talk to him, not even in the most superficial manner. It only serves to remind me that he wears one hell of a good social mask.

He's made it clear multiple times he has no interest on working on us, or even working on himself. He's said he's not coming back, he's sent me email saying he wants a divorce.

I don't know what else I can do.