Going N/C wish me perseverance/strength

[Queen_of_Swords]

Alamo you said:

Going dark doesn't have to mean that you focus less on your kids during handovers. I do that with my wife, and interestingly, she seems to be practicing her own version of going dark too, i.e. she doesn't look at me, talk directly to me, or other pleasantries.

I'm not planning on focusing less on my kids, just not being there when he comes to get them. I'll send them out before he hits my door.
As for pickup I think I'll just ask him to have them waiting in the front entry and they can come out when I drive up.

Jack you said:

[/quote]That might feel good in the short term, but lets say you guys reconcile? How would you feel then?

After this long Jack I think that's as remote a possibility as our family pet sprouting wings and pooping skittles. How would I feel... probably nothing. It's just 28 year old paper and not official in any sense. The "offical" document can be ordered from the department of vital statistics and is on money grade paper that's watermarked.

Jack you also said:

I also suggest that you let him know that you're doing it, something simple. So he doesn't think this is some sort of game or trick.

I'm thinking of telling him the truth. " I hurt when I'm near you."