After that point, it starts to sound like I'm being talked down to, and I'm sure you don't want that.
Keep it simple and to the point.
When she asks for your help, she isn't asking you to point out her flaws and explain how she's messing up. She's also not asking to be compared to what you are doing. As I recall, she already feels as though she's a bit on the short end of things.
Simple. Straightforward.
If she asks for more clarification, that is NOT your opening for the rest. Stick to the KIDS and how THEY feel. This is not about you.
You've got an opportunity here.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."