Okay you mean I am to have no expectations right?

Honestly, don't want to talk to a##hole. It always turns ugly. He has detached so well from us that he has yet to look back it seems.

I feel H should be coming to me/us as he has been the main provider and now has decided to change lives.

I think in his mind he feels free from responsibity this way but at the expense of not helping my oldest with financial stuff for college.

Hsven't seen a lawyer yet.