Some potential responses below (this is difficult as it my kids welfare here!)
1) Basic 2) Is based on my 180’s and trying to be diplomatic (sounds “preachy” now reading it though) 3) Middle of the road 4) No holds barred
Red = Text in all options Blue = Additional text in options 2 & 3 Black = Option specific
General stuff first
Hi, the 12/08 was just a Friday originally for a surprise 40th you had, is this now changed? Looking at 10/09 I think I got it wrong, as this is my weekend without the kids anyhow, so I don’t need to swap. I don’t mind having the kids for the additional Friday night.
Options for the response regarding S12
1) Obviously the situation which the kids find themselves in is very difficult for them, this was evident in the argument which they had a couple of weeks back which I told you about.
I do not want to get involved, or inform you where, as you say “you are going wrong”, you need to figure this out
2) Obviously the situation which the kids find themselves in is very difficult for them, this was evident in the argument which they had a couple of weeks back which I told you about.
S12 said also that he is reluctant to tell you everything as he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. You know what S12 is like, he is a worrier and he actually said to me on a couple of occasions he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. S12 is at an age where he is very impressionable and looks up to his dad (I was like that at his age, he needs this) and wants to do things with me, D14 on the other hand is mature for her age and wants to be with her friends, she shares things and talks to her friends about the situation, S12 doesn’t do this.
Now I am not going to preach anything to you or as I said before “try and fix things”, thus you need to have a detailed look into how you interact with the kids, especially with some of the information I said to you a couple of weeks back when S12 didn’t want to come last time.
I do not want to get involved, or inform you where, as you say “you are going wrong”, as I have said before, it’s all about choice and people have to figure things out for themselves.
S12 told me last night that he would like to stay home, and come to yours every other Thur/Fri/Sat[color:#CC0000]
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