Update and looking for some advice: Things were going smoothly since my last time here. We took a family vacation camping over the 4th of July weekend which was great.
Recently though things have seemed a little cold. I've been in a funk and moping the last week or so because Friday is the anniversary of my mother's death. It hasn't helped that the kids keep bringing her up. My W has picked up on this moping and says this is how I've been in the past and she can't live with that. I told her that this a especially hard time of year for me and that I'll snap out of it soon. She also saw this as an opportunity to tell me that she's been trying real hard to get her feelings back for me that a wife should have for her husband but doesn't think she can. She says she's very happy with my changes, our home and especailly our kids. I listened and validated as usual. We have been to a MC before but have slacked off recently because every Saturday there seems to be something going on with the kids. My W has agreed to get back into it every other Saturday on weekends that she doesn't work.
I just spoke with our MC and she told me that my W is stuck in that cold mode towards me because I haven't really done anything to try and change those feeling for her. The truth is I have been kind of waiting on my W to take those first steps because I didn't want to pressure her.
She told me that I need to start making more advances towards my W to try and stir up those feelings again and not to be discouraged by rejection. She told me that we need to get to that in order to see if we can save our relationship as a married couple. I know this is seen as pursing but this MC has been spot on so far. Any thoughts on this?
There is a difference between knowing the path & walking the path. – Morpheus
