Full discovery for me was 6/21/2010. On 6/22/2010 my H took me to a little island we went to on one of our 1st dates. We talked. I decided to stay. That move on his part was very smart. I reflect on it often....even though things can still be rough in this piecing process, his insight to do that was a good one.
I think it's important to get back to the basics that worked and keep working them.
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
BTW, didn't redo the date. We're not there yet and W has made it clear that we need baby steps. We're friends, not romantic (except at night when I'm dreaming! ).
I did say to her on the phone last night "well, maybe next year we can celebrate it better". She laughed a bit and said "yeah, sounds good". For THIS year, I'll take that.
M: 39 W: 37 Married: 9 D5; S3 "It's Over" 09/26/10 11 Day Sep 10/10 Piecing Starts 11/4/10 Piecing Fails 4/11 I move out 5/11 Hire Lawyer 6/11 - Stall 6/22/11 Piecing #2 - 6/22/11 Home 10/11
Where you are I absolutely agree with your stance.
Remember the Valentine's card fiasco? Good thing you don't have that looming.
I think these life events can be tricky. When I was more in a piecing mode, I struggled, but I think I steered the correct course. Of course, I did make a blunder.
Valentines, birthdays, anniversaries. Tricky. I think remember is nice and appropriate.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
Having a rough day. This really pisses me off because 3 days ago I was really in a good spot. Nothing significant has changed, I'm just cycling and it [censored]. I sure hope I cycle up again soon....
Only 3 items worth noting...
(1) no therapy appointment yet. Uggggghh. I know the week isn't over yet, but come on...
(2) W wanted to be careful about ILY in front of kids. They have completely dropped off except in TM. I guess I get it, but hate it and makes me feel like something has changed (back), although I don't really think it has, just feels that way.
(3) D6 asked me last night "daddy, did you want to leave?". I said "no honey, I didn't." She said, "what did you say when mommy told you you had to leave?". I just said "I was sad that mommy and I weren't getting along like we should". I almost feel apart. My heart is broken.
M: 39 W: 37 Married: 9 D5; S3 "It's Over" 09/26/10 11 Day Sep 10/10 Piecing Starts 11/4/10 Piecing Fails 4/11 I move out 5/11 Hire Lawyer 6/11 - Stall 6/22/11 Piecing #2 - 6/22/11 Home 10/11
(2) W wanted to be careful about ILY in front of kids. They have completely dropped off except in TM. I guess I get it, but hate it and makes me feel like something has changed (back), although I don't really think it has, just feels that way.
I brought this up with my wife when we were piecing.
I said I liked them, they helped and it seemed like we were falling bcak into old habits. Since old habits is how we got so bad, maybe we needed to make sure we had new ones. Such as the ILY's.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
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