I am putting the suggestions into play. Even though my heart can't let go, I have to act as if and move forward. I sometimes wonder though if my efforts to start my GAL are true to me. What I am trying to say is, I really have no interest in going out to bars and that stuff. I went through that stage for many years before I met my wife and to be honest, was very unhappy in that life. I always wanted to get married,settle down and raise a family (what I am doing now). Being a great father and husband, is fulfilling to me.
This is a common misconception about "GAL." Somewhere along the line, a bunch of folks -- esp. the guys -- equated it with "drinking with my buddies."
Your GAL activities should be a reflection of WHO YOU ARE; things that you maybe neglected as you "lost yourself" in unhealthy co-dependency in your marriage. Some great alternatives are to coach a youth sports team, do volunteer work at something that means something to you, be a Big Brother to an underprivileged child, etc.
Some of these involve getting yourself into a strong place emotionally, first, but I think something structured, a volunteer job with someone else in charge, would do WONDERS for you right now, Johnnie.
What sorts of things, causes, activities, mean a lot to you, Johnnie?
