You need to reduce the mere quantity of what you always seem to suggest saying/writing to her. You tend to go on and on, saying much more than needs to be said.
You also have a way of condemning her with the things that you say, even when they are apologies from you for something you supposedly have done wrong.
Remember that your wife is not a student of yours. You should not be in the business of teaching her with your words. That is condescending and will never be received well.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."