Hey Cat. I wasn't actually disagreeing with the concept that you are talking about.
I just gotta ask…
Which is it?
Because words and words aren’t exactly matching up here…
I completely disagree that telling someone that they should beat themselves up over a mistake, as sofaraway did, is a good way to communicate what you and Fig are trying to convey.
I completely disagree that saying 'we are only human' is a mere excuse. It is true, we are human. And as I said, there is not one single person on this board that has not made a mistake or felt an emotion due to being 'only human'.
BUT, I agree with you and Fig that we cannot use it to justify repeated mistakes forever.
I guess my main point is that there is a good way to communicate this, as I think you and Fig did... and a way, tough love you may call it, that some people may find hurtful... Some people do not respond well to that... and, worst case scenerio, some people could be driven away from this board. I certainly don't think that is helpful.
All I'm saying...
Denver
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