Woodman, I can relate to much of your sitch. Look up PEA like Sandi suggested. It is not a solution, but placing labels on things in my sitch helped me accept what I could not change immediately and target things I could.
GAL and detach as much as you can so you can focus on what you can control. You.
Try and let all of the other BS in this drama go away. You won’t be able to at first, but with practice, focus on small successes and yourself you will eventually be able to.
I wish I had more for you.
Vets here like Sandi are precious and speak from perspectives farther along their journeys than I. As you’ve lurked you may have seen this truth. “This is a marathon not a sprint.”
At the risk of sounding cliché
There are no simple solutions, only intelligent choices. It is up to each of us to recognize the right choice for ourselves, and have the courage to seize it. We cannot do so while wringing our hands speculating what our spouses are doing or how they will act. That is why GAL, detachment and standing proudly for ourselves is so important to me
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
