Sorry today is tough. You are going to have bad days. Are you seeing an IC to help you cope with all the trauma's that you are going through? - 'cause let's face it, you are coping with horrible trauma at a macro level (entire relationship in crisis) and then there are all the little trauma's that overwhelm us. .. i.e. OW underwear etc.
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I just hate this. I really hate this. It hurts so much. The betrayal and lost of love and trust. I am in so much pain today.
Yep - it sux. Remember though, it sux today. It sux now. That doesn't mean it's always going to be like that.
I was talking to a friend last night whose wife left him 12 months ago. He was absolutely devastated. She not only left him, but moved with their children from one end of the state to the other. He moved too because he wanted to be with his children – but it uprooted his entire life. He DB’d like a champion – from the heart. He followed all the rules and it helped him sufficiently detach to start to remake his life. He was saying last night that he mentioned to her 12 months is coming up and she should do something about the divorce. She said “oh, I don’t think I can do that now … that’s too much for me” and they’ve started dating again.
He doesn’t know if he’ll be able to rebuild the trust and put aside the betrayal, but I think he’ll be prepared to do it for his family (they’ve got 2 kids) … but the point of the story is – this time last year he was a mess, broken in despair and hopeless. 12 months later, he’s dating casually, he’s just come back from a dream trip to a big important motor cycle event in the UK, he’s doing really well at work … and his MLC/WAW is finally realizing what she’s given up … all of a sudden the ball is squarely in his court. Things change – and just because today is tough … doesn’t mean this is how it’s going to be forever – or even until this afternoon.
