My physician suggested that I should tell my wife about the effect her delay in discussing her A is having on me physically and emotionally. I think it would sound something like this:
I just thought you should know that I am under a physicians care for the stress caused by the events of last Sunday. I have been diagnosed with "adjustment disorder". This has manifested itself through insomnia and no appetite and extreme mood swings and tachacardia. These symptoms will persist until we can discuss your decision on your future plans.
Obviously, this would be putting pressure on her, but, how could I reword it so as to be less pressur'ish...
No, NO, and HELL NO.
Listen to Bond. You can lean on us, lean on friends, family, and/or God Himself, but DON'T lean on your wife in this. You need to show strength.