Sadly, your story is very familiar. Glad you found us and I think you'll find the support is the best.
I have a copy of LD but I personally do not believe that is what should be applied with a WAW who is in an A. The only thing that even comes close to getting her attention is tough love.
The thing about an A is the addiction! I had never read or heard about that until I had an EA and found my way here. If you haven't read the information, just type in search PEA.
I'm very certain that your W had good intentions when the priest gave the advice. I figure OM's W probaby put pressure on him, too. But your W and OM discovered it's not that easy to overcome their need to fix their addictions. That's why your W had to find excuses for leaving the house.
The 8 days she was away was probably spent with OM. If OM didn't spend it with her, I think it was b/c he dumped her. Thus her "turnabout".
Each time your W showed remorse and wanting to make the M work, was more than likely, her fallback to her leftover option.....her H.
She will have to work this out and she needs time to do it. You don't need her to go home until she has gone through some strong withdrawal from A. This time next year, she might be ready, but by then, you may be in a different place.
If you can move forward and GAL, it will really help her see you as a single, attractive man. Key word being "single". If she thought she could not have you, and if another woman was wanting you.......she would suddenly think she'd just die if she couldn't live with you. Human nature.....it's a kick, isn't it?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
