It costs me nothing to remain detached to see how this plays out, but a little money. If/when H forges forward with the D, I'm legally protected and will recoup.
I'm not actively looking to date or start a R with someone else at this point, so that is not a concern. My H was a very good man in many ways. If given a chance to start a new R with him, I believe I would consider it. If that chance does not come along, I'm OK with that too.
When this first happened, (MLC, Bomb) is why I started looking around for an explanation. H's behavior was so out of character from the man I married that I knew something had to have happened to him. MLC explained those things. I've accepted that I can do nothing for him, but the man that he was is worth it to ME to see if he eventually emerges.
Waiting for that possible time does not keep me from moving forward. My life is open to all possibilities. I have achieved loving him from afar, and it is very freeing.
If my circumstances change, I'll deal with that when the time comes.
SA, I could have written this. It is exactly where I am right now as well (although my H has yet to mention D). I just wanted to let you know that you have company where you are.
And you do sound great!
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
