I don't if this helps you, but they did to me. These 2 things helped me a lot during my darkest times.

1: Do NOT make any big changes in your life, finances, anything right now. Take it easy.

2: Consider this year as 'no-count-year'. Means that whatever bad happens for 1 year from now, in your memories it does NOT count. Treat them like they did not happen to you.

The second one helped me a lot. Lot of negative stuff happens during this time and as you start paying attention to each of them, they become unbearable. By saying to myself that whatever bad stuff happens this i'll treat it like it is not happening to me detaches the emotions a bit. See if they help you.


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M 38
W 36
D 7
Married 15 yrs
W left for 6 months in 2009
W Filed for D 01/03/11
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