Its my life

[GAL Man]

My draft reply. W’s email in red, my response underneath, plus additional option (not favoured in blue) plus additional notes, thought I would keep it short (my reply that is)



Hope your well? I have heard you all had a fun packed weekend and brothers party was really good – did you enjoy yourself? The pics look good!!
I’m very well thank you. Not sure what pics, must be what D14 took, will have to have a look, but yeah, really good night, ended up staying in the hotel, spur of the moment thing LOL. Tired now though after a busy week with the kids, and then Transformers and Chititos on Friday, couple of late ones!!!!

D14 had her dentist appt this morning and it was fine, her next appt is xxx but the kids are with me that week so will let you know. Both kids are due a routine dental appt in Aug but I will sort this out and let you know when it is.
Thanks

S12 is still under the hospital but could you do me a favour and look for his letters as I need to chase his next appt.
Will have a look, but not sure where the information is, will let you know next time I see you.

Just a quick reminder we discussed changing some weekend’s around, I will drop the kids off on Friday 29/07 in the morning as it’s the hen weekend, however I know you wanted me to have the kids over weekend 05/08 so I will pick them up on the Friday if that’s ok? Have you planned anything nice?
Fri 29, I thought you meant the afternoon, as I am at work, but not a problem, I will sort something out. RE 05/08 Friday after work will be fine to pick kids up.

Also weekend of the 12/08 again this has been arranged however if you want me to have the kids over weekend 20/08 I can so its just a straight swap!
I just checked your previous email and this was just for Friday night (12/08), is this a weekend now?, if so let me know as I will have to change some things, plus if it is the whole weekend we could swap for 10/09 as I will be out of town.

Are you going bowling next Tuesday? If so can I come along I have been doing a lot of thinking and maybe it would be nice to show the kids we can get on (W put smiley face)
I have said you are always welcome to join us in any of the activities we do. We will be there at the usual time
I have said you are always welcome to join us in any of the activities we do. We will be there at the usual time if you want to join us. Obviously the boundaries which I mentioned last week still apply. (I said last week that I didn’t want any arguing, shouting or swearing when we were out otherwise I would call it a day, plus I said I would like all cells turned off, additionally a boundary which I said about a month ago was about if either of us saw OP then that would be the final nail, this may also remind her of this), second thoughts, nahh, If W wants to come she knows what I said previously so no need to repeat it.

Other thoughts, W’s last email was about not coming bowling last week as she didn’t want to give any hope that we were back as a family, W knows where I am (from a post of mine on page 4) I also sent an email following this up to be absolutely clear. The main part was that I felt our problems were not insurmountable still (if still the same) and that we could have a better future together and as a family, but I accept her choice that W didn't want this, and I no longer wanted to discuss it. IDK, maybe she’s seeing me GAL like no tomorrow and has seen I have changed (loads of 180’s) and W has commented on the new me in conversation a few times now, test? May actually be to show the kids we can get on, however, my last comment after “would you have me back after everything which has happened” followed by, “ohh I wasn’t asking if you would have me back, I was just asking” conversation (if that makes sense LOL) was that I would be her H, but not friend (I know, not the smartest!, but annoyed at the question and quick retraction, I haven’t had tooooo many backslides), so IDK

And one last thing I am very concerned with S12 and him refusing to come to mine – do you know a reason for this? I will be sorting out Sky this week to get internet but just feel there is more to it – has he said anything to you?
I think you need to speak to S12 directly, as I do not want you to think it’s coming from me! I have told him to go straight to yours after school on Wednesday instead of coming home. You are more than welcome to come round later after work to pick up anything he needs, just use D14’s key as I will be out.
I know S12 told you a few things on the phone as he told me, but I had a chat with him last night and he said that he:
1) Feels left out as you do more with D14 than him
2) Feels D14 has sleepovers and he doesn’t
3) Feels you put D14 first, and don’t call him as often
4) doesn’t like all the arguing, esp the shouting etc
5) Gets bored, has nothing to do
6) Does nothing when he is with you
7) Gets banished to the stairs
8) Lies under his bed often
9) Cannot watch tv
10) Wants to be with his dad more (obviously he is at that age where he looks up to his dad)

Thoughts greaty appreciated