Johnnie Detaching is not the same as acting as if you're divorced. you don't need to divvy up the house to be detached.
again, slow down. breathe.
you keep saying you're confused and all over the place, and then follow this up by making life changing decisions of who gets the dog.
panic mode is the absolute worst time to make decisions. you're still in shock, you have such a long way to go.
detaching is purely emotional, has nothing to do with your furniture. nor is it about killing the love for your wife. nor is it about ending your marriage.
its the act of being strong enough that your situation cant break you emotionally.
Hermann Hesse wrote of the strength of water, no matter what you throw in its path, it continues flowing.
read other threads here, learn from them, offer them support. you've been here about a month and haven't commented on any other threads. these are people just like you, and can profit from you and you from them.
get out of your own head for a while, stop thinking only of your own situation.
and again, slow down.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
