Its my life

[GAL Man]

Bworl

Many thanks for taking the time to reply to my posts and information, I do actually feel in a good place lately. I have responded to a couple of specific points of yours

Just one other thing. I'm not sure where you are in this process from a legal standpoint. The savings money does bother me a bit, particularly if your wife is unable to meet the physical needs of the children while they are with hre.

With the kids benefit, which she still has all of it, she brings home a decent wage (just above national ave in the UK) so she "should" be OK (after her rental, rental bills, car ins + fuel and running costs, food etc she still "should" have a few hundred quid left!) W however historically has made some very bad choices regarding money, which I have had to sort out, but she is a very clever lady who should be able to organise her finance no problem. We had no debt or loans, we decided at the time of seperation she had "her" car and I had the equiv in cash, ie the savings.

Have the two of you established any final legal decisions regarding money?

I consulted a lawyer/Sol who suggested I write a seperation agreement for us both to sign, which I did but W never signed it!

I'm not sure that I would hold too tightly to that money. It seems to be the one thing that could be an obstacle in any future movements in a positive direction.

Don't allow her to say at some point that you left her destitute.

In the seperation agreement I wrote (and I have done) I would give her the money for the rental deposit (£1,300) plus waive the £1,000 she was due to pay me back for her car (I purchased the car, with half balance on my CC which I paid off), I told the solicitor/lawyer this and he said that this together with still paying W's (up till this month) and D14's cell phone and allowing W to have all the child benefit would reflect well on me if things went south so to speak. Just a shame W never signed the document I produced.