The thing is, that I would be doing the same thing as I do right now. Be a great father, spend time with friends, exercise, work movies, playing with my kids... What am I missing?
What you're missing is, LETTING GO OF THE OUTCOME.
Would you still do those things that you list, if you knew for a FACT that they wouldn't be "rewarded" -- wouldn't result in a successful outcome, as you're currently defining it? (in other words, it wouldn't result in a reconciliation with your wife)
Would you still do them? If so, why, and if not, why not?
