I had D8 this weekend. My W had let me know that D8 was going to go for a few days with a cousin from Sun to Tue. Cool on that.
As I originally think that I would be dropping D8 back at the house on Sun to be ready for the next event, my W starts talking about a scenario of me dropping D8 directly off at cousins (about half way to the house). I'm thinking about the situation and how D8 would have to either travel with a week's worth of clothes or how that would work.
I then realized that OM and enabling friend lives very close to cousin's... and of course that starts festering in me. How W is probably working in a weekend with OM and will drop stuff off for D8 at cousin's.
No fear, I let that go pretty quick, although it did bother me a bit and reeked of control again. I ended up letting it go. The chips would fall where they fell.
I end up having a meeting on Sun and my W is having trouble confirming with cousin regarding drop off of D8. I figure I can either drop D8 off before meeting at house, or D8 will have to wait until meeting over (a half hour). D8 is all panicked about this. As it comes to 11th hour, W finally calls. She got a hold of cousin and I should get D8 there, otherwise the opportunity for D8 to spend with cousin could be lost.
I choose to be late to meeting and drop D8 off at cousin's. I find out that cousin would be driving by house to pick up stuff for D8.
So the end of this story is, I could have dropped D8 off at house earlier and everything would have been fine. Instead, it feels like my W was simply trying to ensure that I DID NOT go to the house to drop D8 off. I miss a part of my meeting that W is aware of because W is manipulating my affairs with D8.
Still more of the same with W.
In the end, I am OK with what happened. Not because W was all over ensuring I did not drop D8 off at the house or the stress my D8 was going through because of the uncertainty nor because it was OK for me to miss part of my meeting.
I am OK with what happened because... had I dropped D8 off at the house earlier, she would not have had the opportunity to have her first attempt at trying to water ski. An opportunity that she may not otherwise had this summer. And I know she was so happy to have done that.
So as I drove away from cousin's realizing the gained opportunity for D8, the negative feelings just fell off me.
Yes, I am upset that W manipulated the transition to next event of D8 that did not have to happen.
But if things were not exactly as the are, the future would have been so much different...
